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Sunday, February 15, 2009

Referral Day Play By Play

Momma Becking makes it over to see her long awaited Miss Sunshine!

Sharing the LOVE with our friends-more like family! Aunt Cheri & Malaena

My great friend and also adopting momma from Ethiopia, Michelle! She will next!

As you likely have read by now, Bianca has a WONDERFUL little sis. We found out about Little Miss Sunshine on Thursday morning and it was a funny chain of events.
I had just been TOTALLY sulking on Wednesday. All day I was in a funk...It was one of really just a few days of funk I have been in this adoption round...But it was serious. Eric bought me this awesome Red Velvet Cake for my b-day and I froze the last half of it...(So I did not eat it all in one sitting!).
On Wednesday I had lunch with one of my best friend's, came home and put Bianca down for her nap...Was I hungry? NO! I sat on the couch going deeper into my own personal funk, and mindlessly walked to the kitchen, opened the freezer and got out the cake...
45 minutes later, 1/2 of the cake was gone...Even though I was eating it FROZEN..I finally came to my senses then really bugged out. Those of you who know me also know I am into calorie content and while I do love a sweet treat, I am quick to the gym to work it off. I did not even care on Wednesday...I was starting to feel like the day would NEVER come for us to see Little Miss Sunshine's face.
I spent another full hour feeling so sorry for myself...I am not sure if the sugar kicked in, or what but I decided to email Aneata at our adoption agency, confessing to her what I had done, and also pretty much BEGGING her for ANY info. I know I was clearly wrong, but it SOOOO felt like The BIG day was supposed to be this day and it was not happening. Eric said it was because I was about to go into labor! ha ha
Aneata quickly emailed me back (while I am sure fighting the urge to call in medical professionals!) and she told me to take a deep breath and relax....That no news was coming today and she was HOPING to call or email soon with good news....I had asked, if she was thinking days, or weeks to go...but she did not answer those questions....She is good at not letting the cat out of the bag! (I know they do not want to over case something does not happen)

Later I went to the gym, and tortured myself, I am sure still not putting even a dent into the red Velvet cake bump already starting to make an appearance on my back side!

I woke Thursday morning feeling good. Eric was home for the morning and we were having a good morning. I had one quick moment of hope, when I was in the shower and he said my phone was ringing with a "*03" area code....I thought he said "303" area code (Agency area code), but unfortunately it was "703"!!!!! I was slightly bummed but could not go through another "red velvet cake" moment.
We were heading out with Bianca when I got an email from the agency saying they could not find a VERY IMPORTANT document in my file...Then I felt freaked, because I am NOT the most organized momma in this town. I started to look for the document and the home phone rang...NO ONE calls our home phone...Again it was the agency saying they were trying to get in touch with me and would try my cell....STILL not EVEN on my radar....I actually started to get frustrated, as I already got the first message, now the home phone and then my cell rang.
Once I answered my cell phone I was totally frazzled with these ridiculous thoughts of NEVER getting a referral because I could not find our forms! (Can I still blame the red velvet cake for this behavior?)
I answered the phone, with a 'tude I am guessing and I immediately told Aneata we were looking for the form and I would get it to them as quick as I could (but not in a super nice voice)...She said okay, then followed it up with " I also have some more information you will be interested in,"
The world as we know it stops.....
"I have your referral, of a one month old baby girl....."
The next couple of minutes were a bit of a blur...Screaming, doing the ugly cry,the happy dance, screaming some more and grabbing Eric and Bianca.
Aneata told us a bit more info and asked if we were near a computer and literally 2 minutes later we were sitting in front of our computer seeing our newest little Becking for the first time!
True Statement:
This child is a little miracle.
She is between 1-2 months old, looks totally healthy, chubby cheeked almost.
She has a bit of curly hair already and the most amazing lips! She is just a little miracle!
Before we even saw her picture I told Aneata she was ours and we could not be happier. Then I looked at her, and man she is just so so amazing!
I have a really bad quality video Eric did his best to video us while we opened the email and saw Little Miss Sunshine for the first time. I am thinking I will try to post it...But be warned...I am a super sap.

So here we are...The Becking's...Table for four, please!
Everyone has been asking about the next steps for us.
Little Miss Sunshine will now be assigned a court date....It looks like we will wait just to get assigned a court date about one month, then we will learn of the scheduled court date, which looks to be currently another 2-2.5 months away....We HOPE to pass court, and I have every reason to believe we will (though common not to the first round)...If we pass then another 4 weeks until we go get her.
I predict JUNE to bring her home....Maybe we should call her Junebug....Just kidding.
I am getting a ton of heat about her real name and we are narrowing it down.

There is a family from our agency in Ethiopia as we speak picking up their baby...They have agreed to try and get more pics of LMS for us while they are there. She is living at an orphanage, and I have heard great stuff about the caregivers there.
We might have more pics in the next couple of weeks, but sorry we still cannot share them! Not until we pass court, and bring her home! Oh, the anxiety of it all! Sorry you cannot see her. I know it is hard!

One Happy Valentine Couple! We celebrated with a night our on Valentine's day! What a gift!
Thank you for the love that has literally POURED in from the people we love, friends, fellow bloggers, strangers-now friends, and our community!
I am blown away. Keep loving this little squirt home!
Much Love


Kim Dampier said...

Oh my goodness...I am so happy for you guys!! I too was in an adoption funk this week, and so ready to throw in the towel on Friday, and then I logged onto your blog and I swear it was a sign!!! I'm just going to keep my eye on the prize, I know it will be so worth it! Here's to a quick few months until you are holding that sweet baby in your arms!

The Andersons said...

LOVE IT! LOVE IT ALL!! I'm super duper happy for you guys!!! This is so awesome to read because 1) I totally get all those emotions and 2) I love living vicariously through you. thanks for sharing. I can't wait to see pictures!!!! Here's to FAST court dates and travel!

Natasha said...

CONGRATULATIONS! You all have a beautiful family and I can't wait to see pics of LMS!! What number did you all start out on the wait list? Hope court date and travel happens quick!!!

McMurrays said...

Loved reading every word of the BIG REFERRAL DAY! So fun! We will be praying you get through court the first round and that JUNE is the month to bring LMS HOME! Happy Valentines Day what a great gift!
The McMurrays

the truman's said...

We are so happy for you and cannot wait to see her beautiful face. Michelle said she is gorgeous, but I think she has already outweighed our little Gracie! =) And our little one is 5 months old! I do believe they are together and I am so happy about that!
Bless you and love you,

Trendy Mindy said...

Yeah - I have been stalking your blog for days now and was so happy to read your referral story this morning :)

I can't wait to see LMS first pics!!!

PS - you always look so darn cute and stylish in all f your pics!!!!

Unknown said...

OMG.....I'm so happy for you and for US...We got our referral on Valentines day! We were referred a 2 week old baby girl named Simera...We are completely in love right now! I hope we can be travel buddies!

So happy for you, truly, truly happy!

Kristine said...

YEA! So happy for you!!!
I am in my own adoption funk waiting for a court date so I am glad to hear about your little miracle!

Christina said...

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How did I miss this????? CONGRATS!!!!! AMAZING!!!!

Anonymous said...

Oh, this is awesome!!! Praise God for His goodness! Thanks for giving the play-by-play makes it even more fun to celebrate with you!

Krista said...

Oh my goodness! I am SOOOO happy for you guys! Can't wait to hear more and see your journey to LMS!


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J, A, T and Y said... happy for you guys. I hadn't checked in for a while so I was so thrilled to see your news!!!!!!

Leah Reeves said...

Great post! I would love to see the video!!!!!!!!!!

You are very blessed.


Unknown said...

We can't wait to see LMS in your home! We know how hard it is to wait and not share our children with everyone as we are waiting!

Trusting God for the perfect day for her to be brought home. Praying her safe and healthy until she is in your arms forever!

Blessings and love,

~Emily said...

This is GREAT news. I came across your blog via a friends and would like to follow your journey to Ethiopa. Who knows... we may even follow suit. Check us out at

BTW... I recognize your friend Cheree. Round of "It's a Small World" I met her on our first visit trip to Guatemala.

Robyn said...

Congratulations!! I pray she's home soon!!